‘Early Midlife Crisis : A Normal Phenomenon ?’

‘Early Midlife Crisis : A Normal Phenomenon ?’

For long you live and high you fly
And smiles you'll give and tears you'll cry
And all you touch and all you see
Is all your life will ever be. 

The period when you are totally lost. Where? You have no idea.

You keep on questioning and searching? What? You don’t know.

1. Where am I going?

2. What am I doing?

3. What is the meaning of life?

Answers: You are searching for. You are struggling for. Who knows? Sadh Guru? Gaur Gopal Das? Okay, you listen to various Ted Talks, watch motivational videos, read all those inspirational and life changing books, save little quotes in your gallery. Yes, they stir up your mind for a while. And your plans and imaginations roam around them. Now, you begin the process of soul searching and deep thinking. And immediately you draw some significant conclusions about your state of life, like perhaps your life is not as bright as you had hoped, or your career is no longer fulfilling. And you end up becoming even more sad.

However, you know, there are uncountable unexplored adventures ahead of you. You have such a huge bucket list to be fulfilled. But how? God knows. 

Yes, this is the time when everything seems surreal and almost all of them are unreal too. Your vision for future is dismal and blur. You are lost. You are broken. And you are frustrated. EVERYDAY!

Welcome to the early midlife crisis, yes it is early !!

You make a lot of decisions and end up becoming indecisive. You feel the need to give yourself a strong evaluation about where you wanted to be in life VERSUS where you actually are.

You feel yourself as a very old person, but in fact your life has just started.You think the life is no more adventurous and the overall fun has gone. Most of the time, you become nostalgic recalling your past days, bachelor times and how you used to be. 

You feel passionless , boring most of the times. You think thousands of things ,develop the zeal to accomplish them, but end up doing nothing. It is like you can spend hours and hours staring at the wall imagining nothing at all. NOTHING !!

Pretending mechanisms over-count the coping mechanisms. But you do it anyway to get adjust in the society. And yes, you watch ‘Game of Thrones” so that you can baffle about it with your office peers.

But good thing is , you give expert relationship advice when yours is not working properly. And you are a good career counselor, motivator or philosopher, when yours is in doubt. 

'I am finally happy’.

This statement is just a myth. Transformation takes time. Life is all about exploring and keeping your mind busy in the things you want. Feel alive and find your peace. It is okay to be broken or sad. Until you remember the broken crayons still color darker.

Cheers! :)